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Alright y’all, I have to be honest.
Ya girl is…tired.
And not the kind of tired a nap can fix.
Although a nap sounds wonderful right about now.
You, definitely: LOL. No offense Evelyn, but you’re a spoiled millennial with no spouse or children to take care of and tbh you do a negligible job of caring for the two pets someone allowed you to have. Oh and most importantly…
Le sigh. I know.
Which is why I feel
a tad super ungrateful for writing this post.
Currently, I get to do what I love every single day and get paid for it. I don’t have to answer to an unforgiving boss or put up with annoying coworkers. I don’t have a crappy commute and best of all, there’s no tardy policy.
I know I’m #blessed, y’all.
In the spirit of keeping it real…
…sometimes you feel like a nut, and sometimes you don’t.
Sidenote: If you got that reference along with the Martin meme…Congratulations, you are also old.
Look, no one wants to be a Negative Nancy or a Debbie Downer, least of all me.
But I promised you that this blog would be an honest, behind-the-scenes look at what it takes to become the richest writer in the world or you know, at least richer than JK Rowling.
So, today’s one of those “I’m writing it because I need to read it” posts.
And my guess is I’m not the only indie writer/solopreneur/authorpreneur/self-employed person who feels this way.
Y’all…it’s a process. I’m a little over a year into this self-publishing journey and I’m still learning what works and what doesn’t.
Aha! Which leads us to the whole, entire point of this post.
Yes, there is a point. Hush you.
Okay, so I may not have figured out the best way to navigate this crazy world of entrepreneurship yet…
But I am fast learning what doesn’t work. So without further ado, here’s a list of things you should most definitely not do. Unless you want to burn out.
Which is weird, because why would you want that? I mean, far be it from me to tell you what you should and shouldn’t want.
Actually, you know what, just don’t do these things.
And if you’re already doing them, stop. Or at least re-think them.
You’re welcome boo.
How to Burn Out Like a Boss (aka -Ish You Probably Shouldn’t Do)
#1 Think about money, like all the damn time.
Obsess over how much money you’re making.
Or how little money you’re making.
Have an anxiety attack every time you blow your budget by ten bucks.
Pile all your unpaid bills on your bed, then roll on top of them while crying and eating Great Value brand ice cream straight out the tub.
Lately, ya girl’s been giving herself an ulcer worrying about trivial things like paying “rent” and “utilities.”
Sidenote: I don’t know why I put those things in quotes. They are of legitimate concern. Lolz? Please send help.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t be concerned about these things BUT freaking out about them on a damn near daily basis, is not only unhelpful but also anxiety-inducing.
Loosen the damn reigns a bit. Buying two bags of Boom Chicka Pop Sea Salt Popcorn will not bankrupt
me you. I promise.
#2 WORK ALL THE FLIPPING TIME
By now y’all should be familiar with a few of my favorite hashtags: #grind #nosleep #hustle and #nodaysoff
Sure, they’re great for letting
the Internet the world know that you’re about that life but if you really want to burn out, you should take them literally and work every moment of every day.
It’s a super seductive trap to fall into. After all, social media influencers from every industry are constantly talking/tweeting/snapping/posting about how hard they work all the flipping time.
- How they sleep with their Air Pods in so they can take calls at any hour.
- How breakfast doubles as a Skype session with a client.
- How lunch turns into replying to emails and engaging on social media.
- How dinner is skipped altogether because they have a Facebook live scheduled.
Break, what’s a break? Ain’t nobody got time for that.
Yeaaaaah, that’s not so healthy.
But hey, I make mistakes so you don’t have to and y’all I’ve been SUPER guilty of this one.
After all, how could I call myself a solopreneur if I wasn’t literally hustling 24 hours a day, 7 days a week?
Look, your brain and psyche need time to fully rest and recover. It’s okay to give yourself a day off from the grind. And I mean a true day off. You will not lose all your Instagram followers if you don’t post for a day. Promise.
#3 Ignore Your Real Life Tribe
I am all for finding your peeps and building an online tribe. It’s cool and for many of us, it’s a necessity given our work.
Don’t ignore the people you actually know in real life. You know, the ones who call to invite you to Sunday brunch even though they know you’re hung over af.
The ones who keep track of the last time you were seen out in public and will drag your butt to Karaoke night if it’s been too long.
The ones who you can stand outside with…all of you with your arms stretched high above your heads…watching the sunset for no apparent reason. (Get it…it’s the stock photo…Scroll up…I’m making fun of the – Nah, you don’t get it. It’s fine.)
If you really want to have a solid burn out, ignore their calls and texts. Or when you do talk to them, tell them you’re too busy chasing coins to hang out.
Besides, it’s not like isolation causes damaging psychological and physiological effects in humans or anything.
“The battle must be fought anew every day.” – Steven Pressfield The War of Art
It’s okay to slow down and take days off and feel like crap.
Even when you’re doing the thing you love.
Maybe especially when you’re doing the thing you love.
Give yourself permission to be human.
I promise you’ll still get your work done.